Updated: May 26, 2019
Let’s throw out all the bullsh** shall we. No one is guaranteed to find someone to love them in this world. All those positive thinking sayings people say to help you feel better, they are fu**in’ lies.
Dating guru’s I’ve read their positive thinking crap, I even tried it when I started this dating process over 5 years ago. Know what I got? A kick in the ass while the door was still closed, thank you very much. People don’t know jack sh**.
Let’s look at their so called advice, shall we.
He’s looking for you too.
You’ll find love when you stop looking for it. Or Don’t give up he’s looking for you too.
Really? I’m right here. If he was looking for me he’d have found me already. I’m not hiding. In fact I have look at me ads on almost every online dating site. I go to bars. I paid matchmakers, I let people know I’m looking. Trust me, no man is looking for me. Men are looking for the best looking piece of ass they can bang. That’s what guys want. A nice piece of tail. Some chick that’ll make their friends jealous and will look good beside them.
My ass is too big to love. Big enough to screw, but too big to love and sure as hell too big to be seen in public with. They don’t want to take me out and do stuff like go to a movie or dinner with someone like me. I’m not pretty enough or young enough.
Then there’s the whole Love Yourself BullSh**
He can’t love you if you don’t love yourself.
I love myself just fine thank you very much. I rock and am better than any of those Barbie doll princesses they are all bowing down to. Men don’t want to get to know you, they just want to fu** you. Well F** them, if they are too stupid to take the time to figure out how wonderful I am, then it’s there loss, not mine.
Besides, I’m living just fine without him. If he didn’t want me when my life was upside down chaos and I needed him to lean on, then I sure as hell don’t want him now that my life is good and I don’t need anyone.
YOU HEAR THAT, I DON’T NEED A MAN, I DON’T NEED ANYONE.
Be open to the Love in Front of You.
Vulnerable? What the F*** kind of advice is that? Yeah let's all wear our hearts on our sleeves so men can grab them and jump all over them before kicking you out.
Don’t be picky, be open to possibilities
Why the fu** would I want to love just any man who happens to come along and love me? I make 6 figures and am pretty damn awesome in a courtroom. I drive a high end sports car. I go on tropical vacations all the time. I have a great life that lots of losers want. That doesn’t mean they deserve me. They have to earn it. They have to show me that they are worthy of me, not the other way around.
Law of Attraction can eat me
You are what you attract.
Be what you want and it will find you.
Seriously? Are you saying I don’t deserve a great man because some cosmic energy out in the world decided I am unworthy? I’m pretty. I’m smart. I’m independent. I got a lot going for me, thank you very much. I have a lot to offer a man.
I know what I’m worth, they are Blind
Know what your worth and a man will treat you better.
Yeah right. A guy says he wants to meet, I say, “great where?” He says his place, my place, his car, or his hotel room. Like that’s all I am, some slut. Well I’m not and when I say I’m not and will only meet at a coffee shop, he disappears.
It’s OK, he wasn’t the one, Move on.
I’m supposed to be OK with men’s behaviour because he’s just looking to get laid and not a relationship. I’m supposed to be OK with all the men in my message box wanting to hook up with me? I’m supposed to be OK with the fact that all I am to men is a set of tits? I’m supposed to be OK with some asshole talking to me like I’m a prostitute? Really?
What the Fu** kind of advice is that? If you know your worth and don’t put up with bad behaviour, you’ll be alone because let’s face it, the single 40 something men out there either want the 30 something tart or just want to bang you. They don’t care how much it hurts a woman to be talked to like that. They don’t give a crap how it eats away at her soul when he just wants to hook up and she isn’t good enough to date or love.
Men only care about themselves. They don’t care how it feels to know that you are only good enough to f***. They lie to get what they want, they just fu** em and fling em because they have needs that need to be met and I am not good enough to love, my needs don’t matter.
Well Fu** that sh**. I’m good enough to love. They don’t deserve me, not the other way around. I am good enough damn it. You can all go screw yourselves for thinking differently and treating me like I don’t deserve love.
Men Suck, I hate them all.
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